I got an hour of sleep this morning. I couldn’t stop mulling over where I’m going to go to college and other things. I knew that my day would be exhausting.
Fast forward to this afternoon. My Dad wanted to take his motorcycle to a repair shop. He was going to make a drop off, and I was going to pick him up to bring him home. Unfortunately, there was some miscommunication, and I drove to the wrong shop. That mistake cost both of us an hour and a fair amount of gasoline.
Forget it. Not a big deal.
Immediately afterward, I had to run some food up to the school for my sister, who was at drama rehearsal. Because my day was going so poorly, I was glad to do this favor; it would make me feel like a good brother and a little better. After all, I love my sister.
After dropping the food off, I was still agitated from my subpar day. I walked outside the school and saw a bench. It was warm outside and there was a slight breeze; it was perfect. I decided that to calm down and just feel better, I would lay down on this bench, close my eyes, and daydream. It’s something I’ve done often over the last six years here at Dover Middle/High School. I thought Dover was the kind of place where you can do something like that and feel safe. I was infinitely comfortable, safe, and secure.
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Water. Someone was pouring water onto my head. A middle school boy who I’ve never met was pouring water, from a bottle he was drinking out of, onto my head. Water. I just went for invasive ear surgery. If I got my ear wet, I’d be very sick and in excruciating pain for at least a week. More drastically, it could ruin my surgery. For no reason, this boy was pouring water onto my head.
I jumped up, appalled. I’m not going to lie to you, I lost it. In front of one witness, a school substitute teacher, I verbally let loose on this kid. Out of all of the instances in my life where violence was seemingly appropriate, this was number one.
But - I restrained myself. I don’t believe that violence solves problems, and I’m proud I stuck with my values.
I’m just having a hard time believing that a young man can just walk up to another man, an older man taking a nap, and randomly inflict harm upon him. Forget my healing ear - the water was ice cold. I could have jerked my head and slammed it down on the bench.
As I yelled at this boy, a 7th grader, he laughed at me. I questioned what values he had. I questioned if his parents taught him anything about respect. He kept laughing, I kept yelling. He walked away.
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I approached the only credible witness, the substitute teacher who was with her young son. I apologized to her for anything inappropriate I said in front of her boy, and she told me I handled myself well. I asked her if she knew the boy. She did, and I took down his name and hers. Needless to say, the Middle School Principal will be paid a visit from one Mr. Richard Mondello tomorrow morning.
It’s not a vengeance thing - I don’t believe in revenge, either. This young man needs to understand that you don’t do something like that to anybody. It doesn’t matter that he could have ruined a very painful and expensive surgery and ruined my chances to hear ever again out of that ear. What if I had been laying on my side, with my healing ear facing up? It would have been toast.
The inside of my good ear was drenched. My hair was drenched. Luckily, the cotton ball I wore in my healing ear protected it.
This could have easily been the worst day of my life.
Such an act should certainly be dealt with by the forces in charge at school. I have a pretty good handle on what is necessary and what is not, and this definitely falls under the latter. I am glad, however, to hear that there was no injury sustained or a setback of any sort. The road to recovery presses on.
That is very surprising. I must say you have a lot of self control to not completely loose it. I am more appalled by the fact that this young child chose to mock you, and had no remorse. That is what truly affects me.
You’re a better man than I, Rick. I would have tackled (or grabbed, since there were witnesses) and screamed in his ear as high as I could until he went deaf in that ear. Watch some TV, put in a formal, in-person complaint tomorrow, and thank whoever invented cotton balls.
Oh god, I’m so sorry. I am in disbelief.
If that was me ricky, that little kid would toast! You a brave man ricky!
You handled yourself very well, all things considered. I would have been furious! I’m sorry about all this, I’m really sorry.
Thank you, friends. Really, thank you all.
But don’t be sorry about it. It’s nothing you did or could have done differently.
I would have hit him. A lot. I wouldn’t have said a word. I applaud your restraint, even though I would have acted differently.
Wow, thats brutal. I’m glad you are still well though, and you handled it properly. Violence wouldn’t have helped and most likely gotten you in trouble. Your ear aside, you just don’t do that to another person especially a stranger. Complete lack of respect for someone else’s personal space.
Ricky, I want to know who this little bastard is. Nobody treats my friends that way. If I had been there Ricky, believe me, that kid would not have been laughing.
Sean, you know I can’t tell you that… in public.